Crystal Aura Gaze

The problem with extreme thinness goes deeper than the surface. I’m not talking about people who are naturally very skinny, or people who lose weight due to illness, medication side effects, something out of their control etc. I’m only talking about people who consciously seek it.

People argue that it’s a vanity thing, or pressure from celebrities, or the way that society is. But the problem with this theory is that extreme thinness is not attractive. And I don’t say that to offend anyone, but it goes against all of our natural instincts.

When we see someone at an extremely low weight, it sends signals to our brain that this person is sick and starving. There should be a gut reaction the same way as when you see someone in pain. And that’s because these people are indeed sick and in pain.

People rarely think about what is going through a person’s mind when they purposely put themself in that condition. We tend to automatically assume that they want to look more attractive. But extreme thinness is not attractive – and attraction is not the goal.

There is a certain weight in which it is physically impossible to take in enough vitamins, minerals, and other important nutrients. Even if you’re taking supplements, your body won’t have enough resources to properly absorb those supplements.

So, I’m going to dig deeper as to why extreme thinness is not about vanity.

Fear of the divine feminine

Extreme thinness affects both genders, but for this point, I’m focusing on women. Some women are terrified of their divine femininity. Biologically and primally, women are meant to weigh more than men, and store more fat. They are meant to be softer, less muscular, and have curves — boobs, butts, and hips, that give them hourglass figures.

Why are girls so shocked when they see that ancient statues of Aphrodite, the goddess of love and beauty, has curves and rolls? Why are they surprised that she has a stomach? This is literally a goddess — the most beautiful goddess of all. And girls are so shocked at what is considered aesthetically perfect.

We also know that men prefer women with curves (generally, but sure some exceptions.) This is not just a primal thing (as curves show good health and fertility), but modern day studies also support this fact. Not that women need to cater to men, but it’s fascinating that extreme thinness goes completely against this.

Women are scared of their feminine power. Eating disorders are prevalent in teens first going through puberty, when they’re scared of their new bodies. Girls are taught that their bodies and appearance are to blame for any instances of SA or SH.

The modern woman is put under pressure to compete with men. Many are conditioned to believe that femininity is spiritually weak. Not only does starvation take away the shape of the body, it also suppresses female hormones. Extreme dieting can be an unconscious way of distancing oneself from the divine feminine.

And lastly, divine feminine energy is about surrender, letting go, and receiving rather than chasing. Extreme dieting shows a need for control and dominance. Instead of using her intuition to trust what her body needs, she turns to control.

The urge for help and protection

Men can also seek extreme thinness, and something that both genders may struggle with is the need for help and protection. Extreme thinness causes a person to look frail, helpless, and sick – something that triggers maternal or paternal instincts in others.

When you see someone who looks ill, there is an unconscious part of you that desires to help and protect them. And the more empathy you have, the stronger this pull feels.

Somebody who desires this look is unconsciously hoping that it will make other people more protective of them, less likely to hurt them. This can be a post-traumatic stress response to emotional pain. It’s a defense mechanism.

Maybe they want special treatment – or maybe they want more people to care about them and be less insensitive to them. But it’s very much a cry for help.

Disconnection from primal self

Purposeful starvation goes completely against natural instinct. There are times when you do need to practice self-control and self-discipline. But not to this extent.

Longterm starvation puts a lot of unhealthy stress on the body, but some people are able to completely ignore those signals. It’s scary to think of someone ignoring such strong signals from the body – those signals are important. The inability to listen to your body can lead to far more issues.

We are meant to honor our primal selves – instead of pretending it doesn’t exist. While it’s true that you cannot let your primal self be in complete control, you still have to honor it. The more that you suppress it, the stronger it actually becomes!

If your body is craving something, you should listen to that craving – and you can still do that in a smart way. If you’re craving sugar, then you can have fruit instead of candy – instead of completely ignoring that craving.

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With all that said, seeking extreme thinness comes down to rejection of the divine feminine, an urge to be helped and protected by others, and denial of the primal self.

When you see someone who is super thin, you shouldn’t make assumptions. You don’t know how or why they got there. But you also shouldn’t romanticize it like an aesthetic.

If you feel a pressure or pull towards extreme thinness, here are some questions to ask yourself:

For women:

• What are the spiritual strengths of your feminine qualities?
• Do you believe that the shape of your body is shameful and needs to be hidden?
• When you receive unwanted male attention, do you blame it on your appearance?
• Do you feel pressured to be “more like a man”?
• Is it okay for men and women to be different, or do they need to be the same, in order to achieve equality?

For men & women:

• Is there an urge to be “rescued”?
• How can you safely ask a loved one for help?
• How do you want others to perceive you and why?
• What parts of yourself feel shameful?
• How can you honor your primal self in a healthy and controlled way?

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Please never hesitate to ask a loved one for help.