Crystal Aura Gaze

From ancient times to modern day, a majority of men have claimed that women are not allowed to be victims. If they find themselves being taken advantage of by a man, it must be their fault somehow.

When a man holds the door for a woman or pulls out her chair, he’s treating her with respect. It’s not that she’s incapable of doing this herself — it’s reassurance that she is being looked after and taken care of.

But the same man who holds the door for a woman can also be the same man who blames her, shames her, and degrades her when she’s been taken advantage of by another man. When a woman is truly in danger, it must be her own fault. She’s not allowed to be a victim.

Somehow, a woman is only worthy of protection when she doesn’t actually need to be protected. That kindness, respect, and chivalry may completely disappear when it’s actually truly needed.

Can a man face himself in the mirror and realize he failed to protect his woman when she was in danger? Or would he rather demonize her and avoid any accountability on his own part?

When he saw the warning signs that she was in the wrong place at the wrong time, did he swoop in and save her? Was he man enough to be the hero that she deserved? Or was he swallowed by his own cowardice?

It’s easier for a man to demonize a woman before he can step up to the plate and be brave. But deep down, he knows that he failed — he failed to protect her at all costs.

Facing that truth is too painful for a man — especially when his ego is at risk. He was supposed to fight for her, yet he chose to fight against her. Instead of recognizing her as a victim, he labeled her as the enemy.

A man with a bruised ego looks at women like they are the enemy. But a man with an evolved soul will see women as something special — fragile, but not in a weak way. Women are like glass — they should be handled with care, but they will cut you deep if you step on them.

Women look out for one another. Older women look at younger women and girls with protective eyes. They remember what it was like to be that young — and so easily taken advantage of. They look out for them.

She doesn’t know when she’s being taken advantage of. She doesn’t know the meaning of boundaries. She doesn’t know how to raise her voice or assert her dominance. At last resort, all that she can do is scream at the top of her lungs, run away, and hide.

As a woman grows older, she gradually finds her voice and her confidence, but she is still only a woman. Whether in her thirties, forties, or up into her senior years, she is still a woman who is worthy of protection.

Women become wise as they grow up, but they never lose that softness — nor should they. Softness is a gift — and while some label it “weak,” it actually takes an incredible amount of strength to remain soft in this hard world.

So, when a man has failed to protect his woman, he will twist the narrative in order to keep his ego intact. Somehow, he will make this her fault. That’s an easier truth for him to live with.

He lays down his sword in defeat. Finally, he looks at himself in the mirror. He lost the battle — but not the war.

He may have failed to protect his woman — but luckily, she has learned to protect herself. Over the years of being failed by so many men, she crafted her own armor. She was able to save herself.

Moving forward, a lesson has been learned. He will no longer play the victim; he will take accountability and stand up for his woman. He will protect all of the women in his life: his wife, his mother, his sisters, his cousins, and his friends. Never again, will he see woman as the enemy.